I have lived enough to know that learning never ends. I’ve learned that life is messy—at best. That there is no one right way to do anything. That even though there is no way to avoid mistakes, loss, and pain in life, we carry within us the capacity for learning, healing, and growing. So, in my work as a counselor, speaker, consultant, and author, I strive to share what I’ve learned from my own life and from the privilege of walking alongside others at difficult times in their lives.
Whether it’s a new publication (mine or someone else’s), a commentary on new research, an announcement about an upcoming speaking engagement, a blog post about life’s challenges, or a poem about healing, I hope you find something here that is of use to you. You are welcome here.
I’ll start us off with a poem I wrote in 2015 in honor of all those who have allowed me the privilege, for a time, of walking alongside them upon their healing journeys.
Upon the Healing Journey
You come to me.
Hesitant. Afraid. Courageous.
We test the waters with formalities that invite us deeper,
Past the demographics and the labels,
Past the masks that offer shelter from judgment and assumption,
Past the gates that guard the hidden self.
Where we come to you:
Your shattered dreams and expectations,
Your yearnings and imaginings,
Your loss and grief and trauma,
Your experience of deceit and betrayal by those who should have held your trust sacred.
And you begin the work of speaking the truth
Of naming the unnameable,
Of feeling the unfeelable,
Of grieving the ungrievable.
The crushing weight of unheard pain begins to lift
As you learn to honor your losses and experience your grief,
As room is made for your anger alongside your gratitude,
As the real, whole picture is painted and felt and seen in the space we build together.
And with the justice of reality spoken, felt, and heard
Your vision broadens to include your many strengths, gifts, and triumphs.
From the ashes you grow a meaning of your own making
Watered with your tears,
Nurtured by your hope,
Protected by your determination to choose life in spite of it all.
And you rise like a Phoenix
With wisdom that will always be yours
And that you will share with others
So that they will know
They are not alone
And they, too,
Can survive and learn to thrive
Upon the healing journey.
~ Cynthia Good
If you are facing challenges, know that you are not alone and help is available. If I can be of assistance, please let me know.
Best wishes on your journey,
P.S. Anyone is welcome to link to this blog post if they want, but reproduction or transmission of this poem in any form is prohibited without my written permission. Thank you for your understanding!